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THERAPY FOR SEX & PORN ADDICTION
there’s a way out of the shame cycle. Let us guide you.
Most men who seek out therapy for sex or porn addiction never imagined they would be here. You may be struggling with out of control porn usage, repeated infidelity, anonymous hookups, paid sexual encounters, or other patterns of sexual acting out that feel increasingly difficult to stop. You may be carrying intense shame, fear of being exposed, or frustration that insight or desire alone hasn’t changed the behavior. If you're like many of our clients, you’ve had good intentions, but attempts to stop your destructive sexual behaviors have been unsuccessful.
If this feels out of control, you’re not alone.
We understand being hesitant to label yourself as an “addict", but something is definitely wrong. You're smart, successful, and otherwise have a good life... but you also know that healthy sexuality doesn't involve feeling anxious or shameful, and shouldn't control your life, so you're here looking for help. If you’ve promised yourself things would change, only to find the cycle repeating, it doesn’t mean you don’t care or lack discipline - It means the problem runs deeper than willpower.
We’re here to show you that change is possible. We know because we’ve done this work ourselves.
You’re ready to:
INTERRUPT COMPULSIVE BEHAVIORS & RESTORE STABILITY
ADDRESS WHAT’S DRIVING THE BEHAVIORS
REDUCE SHAME & SECRECY
CREATE CAPACITY FOR DEEP RECOVERY & HEALTHY CONNECTION
Many men come to us looking for help with sex or porn addiction and aren’t sure whether they are a sex addict or not. In our work, labels matter less than patterns. What we’re looking for is loss of control, emotional dysregulation, secrecy, lack of emotional intimacy, and the impact these behaviors are having on your life and relationships.
Compulsive sexual behavior is often driven by anxiety, conquest, trauma, or difficulty tolerating emotional states - not a lack of values or motivation. White-knuckling, generic therapy, and insight alone don’t resolve these patterns of behavior, because they don’t address what’s actually fueling them.
This isn’t about willpower.
The term 'sex addiction' isn't a moral judgement. It describes a pattern of behavior rooted in emotional disconnection.
Sex isn’t the problem - the pattern is.
Sexuality is a normal, healthy part of adult life that can increase your emotional intimacy, strengthen your sense of self-image, and act as a buffer to outside stressors. In short, sex matters… But when sexual behaviors become addictive, destructive, or illegal, it's time to get help. Regardless of your age, ideology, or ethnicity, sex should never feel empty, joyless, or demoralizing. This is where the work begins.
What the work looks like
Stabilize behavior and reduce chaos
Early work focuses on interrupting acting-out behaviors and establishing a clear process and accountability. This helps lower anxiety, reduce mental preoccupation, and create enough stability to engage in real recovery, rather than staying stuck in crisis management.
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Identify emotional and situational triggers
Next, we’ll work together to understand the internal turmoil, stressors, and patterns that lead you to acting out. This isn’t about excuses - it’s about clarity, so those moments can be handled differently.
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Address shame, secrecy, and trauma
Shame and secrecy keep these patterns entrenched. Ongoing therapy works to reduce shame while still holding responsibility for behavior. When appropriate, trauma-focused approaches such as EMDR are used to address the underlying drivers.
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Build regulation, integrity, and connection
As stability increases, the focus shifts to emotional regulation, honest communication, and healthy sexual and emotional intimacy. This phase of the work often includes preparing for relational repair and more grounded sexual connection.
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Group Therapy
for sustained recovery
For many men, especially executives and professionals, individual therapy alone isn’t enough to break isolation and sustain change. We offer clinician-led Sex Addiction Therapy Groups as part of a structured recovery process.
Unlike peer-led groups, these groups are professionally facilitated, focused, and contained. They provide accountability, perspective, and support - without the triggering dynamics or lack of structure that can show up elsewhere.
Group work is not required, but for most clients, it can significantly strengthen recovery.
Let’s look at both sides of the story.
Compulsive sexual behavior doesn’t happen in isolation. For men in a relationship, porn addiction and infidelity can significantly affect their partner, often resulting in betrayal trauma - which goes far beyond typical relationship conflict.
Ethical recovery includes acknowledging this impact without defensiveness or minimization. We’ll help you prioritize transparency in a healthy way by guiding you in creating a process tied to your goals that you can share with your partner. Repair isn’t about control, it’s about accountability, and this structure creates accountability inside an emotional intimacy framework that is incredibly healing. We also recognize that partners often need their own dedicated support, so if your behavior has affected a partner, we strongly encourage learning more about Betrayal Trauma Therapy.
These are connected processes - but they are not the same work.
FAQs
COMMON QUESTIONS
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Loss of control, secrecy, escalation, or unwanted consequences are the indicators to pay attention to. If sex feels less like expression and more like escape or compulsion, it’s worth taking a closer look.
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No. Most men start therapy because they haven’t been able to stop on their own. Interrupting behavior becomes an early focus, but you don’t need to have it under control to begin.
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That’s common. We focus on patterns, not labels. If sexual behavior feels out of control or is creating consequences, the work still applies.
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Yes. Structure is paramount. With the right support and accountability, long-term patterns can change, and intimacy can feel good again.
WE’LL HELP YOU get there.
Change is possible